Posting anything on TikTok is easy enough for anyone, but sometimes people are quick to judge you based on what you share.
For example, this mother received criticism after she posted a video saying grandparents shouldn’t hug her toddler without permission.
In the clip, the Aussie mom asks one question: “Can we please start normalizing the fact that kids do not have to not have to kiss and hug adults?”
Brittany Baxter taught her 2-year-old daughter about consent and unwanted physical attention a week ago, receiving thousands of views on the accompanying video.
“Basically since the day she was born,” Baxter has been instilling in her daughter that she always has the right to say no. At such a young age, her daughter already understands this concept surprisingly well.
She said that she’s had enough of others challenging her parenting judgments, especially when it comes to her grandparents.
Then she hit a wall when it came to continuing to educate these tiny lessons after witnessing how other people in her life disregarded her daughter’s boundaries.
She continued: “I find it really [expletive] unhelpful when the adults in her life are like ‘What, we have to ask for a kiss and a hug?’ even though I’ve explained why multiple times… And then when she says no, they’re like ‘Oh, she doesn’t love me, my feelings are so hurt,’ and then they proceed to overstep her body boundaries anyway.’”
It has been frustrating for her, so she vented about the issue on TikTok in hopes that others would understand.
Baxter added: “My daughter and her body do not exist to make anyone feel more comfortable and to make anyone feel more loved.
It is not her fault and it is not my fault that the older generation hasn’t taken the time throughout their entire lives to learn how to regulate their emotions/feelings so consent doesn’t continue to be overlooked.”
She noted that the decision wouldn’t be to upset Grandma or Grandpa, but rather about respecting her daughter’s wishes.
Baxter said: “No one’s feelings are ever going to be more important than my daughter’s right to her own body.
And I’m sure as [expletive] not going to allow her to grow up in an environment where 1. She doesn’t know how to say no and 2.
She doesn’t know what it looks like for her not to be respected.”
While some of her fans showed support for what she had to say, others were quite critical. One person even said that watching her was a lesson in bad parenting practices.
Another user also called her entire video “outrageous.”
This mother understands that her perspective is not shared by all parents and that some people may not agree with her. This is how she wants to teach her daughter about boundaries, and she became frustrated because even after explaining why it’s important to her several times, the adults in her life still didn’t seem to understand.
Finally, she has one wish: “Grandparents, do better.”
What’s your take on her position in regard to personal space? Was it proper for her to notify the grandparents not to hug their grandchild without first obtaining permission?